Mary Saienko
Integrative Coach and Cognitive Behavioral Hypnotherapist
Stress Resilience, Self-Trust, Social-Confidence, Values
Mary Saienko
Integrative Coach & Cognitive Behavioral Hypnotherapist
towards Stress Resilience, Self-Trust, Social-Confidence, Values
People like having you around. You notice what others need, and you’re kind, often before you’ve even decided to be. You say yes when you want to say no. You prepare for conversations, replay them afterwards, and wonder whether you said too much, or not enough to help or impress.
However hard you try, it rarely feels good enough. So you try to become even better, in more and more directions. And sometimes a quiet thought appears: Why does no one do for me what I do for them? It can feel unfair.
This is where things can change. Together we find a balance, so that your relationships feel more equal, and you feel that you are enough.
I help people find calm, confidence and their own voice, in any relationship and any conversation, without having to become someone else. It’s about discovering who you really are, and practising being that person. Step by step, at the right level of difficulty, while your thinking changes along the way.
I’m an Integrative Coach and Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapist (HDip.CBH), working in Berlin and online with people who want to feel steadier under stress, more at ease with others and more connected to what truly matters to them.
I bring both natural compassion and evidence-based practice helping humans to regulate on time, behave differently, prioritize with meaning, and rest deeply.
Let me to help you to take the weight off your shoulders. So you have more energy for the parts of life that bring warmth, curiosity and genuine enjoyment.
If you have any questions or you are ready to book your first appointment, please don´t hesitate to contact me; saienkomary@gmail.com or simply press a booking button.
However hard you try, it rarely feels good enough. So you try to become even better, in more and more directions. And sometimes a quiet thought appears: Why does no one do for me what I do for them? It can feel unfair.
This is where things can change. Together we find a balance, so that your relationships feel more equal, and you feel that you are enough.
I help people find calm, confidence and their own voice, in any relationship and any conversation, without having to become someone else. It’s about discovering who you really are, and practising being that person. Step by step, at the right level of difficulty, while your thinking changes along the way.
I’m an Integrative Coach and Cognitive Behavioural Hypnotherapist (HDip.CBH), working in Berlin and online with people who want to feel steadier under stress, more at ease with others and more connected to what truly matters to them.
I bring both natural compassion and evidence-based practice helping humans to regulate on time, behave differently, prioritize with meaning, and rest deeply.
Let me to help you to take the weight off your shoulders. So you have more energy for the parts of life that bring warmth, curiosity and genuine enjoyment.
If you have any questions or you are ready to book your first appointment, please don´t hesitate to contact me; saienkomary@gmail.com or simply press a booking button.
If you are ...
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working in low-error environment
Healthcare, Lawyer, IT, Engineer, in a demanding envitoment -
in transition phases
Immigration, lack of experience, career shifts, new child, divorce -
surviving work overload
without clear boundaries or with values missmatch -
living with compassion fatigue
Therapist, Doctor, Parent, Team lead, HR -
non stop knowledge digger
highly analytical and reflective individual -
high-achiever
highly conscious, perfectionistic and responsible individual -
in public-facing role
with/or having rejection sensitivity -
in performance culture
luck of work-life balance
How do we do it?
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Acceptance & Commitment Therapy
ACT helps you develop a healthier relationship with your thoughts and emotions instead of struggling against them. It supports you in building a meaningful life guided by your personal values, even in the presence of difficult emotions, uncertainty, or self-critical thoughts. -
Integrative CoachingStructural, while flexible, multi-disciplinary approach to personal and professional development that combines various psychological frameworks, therapeutic techniques, and coaching methodologies tailored to the unique needs of each client. -
Cognitive Behavioral TherapyWe identify thoughts, reactions and actions that fuel your tension and worry. Step by step, you practice gradual, planned exercises to build new way towards confidence and resilience. -
Assertiveness TrainingWe practice respectful but honest way to protect your needs and boundaries, ask for help, present yourself or negotiate decisions so people around can get it. It works for both who are too shy and pleasing and for those who are too direct and agressive. -
Nourishing RelationshipsI do my best to talk with kindness, compassion, understanding and empathy. I promote hope, adjust sessions to every client and believe in change,
because I saw how it happens many times. -
Hypnotherapy (optional)Used like an imaginary rehearsal or gradual learning. Similar to how athletes imagine performance before competition, we practice new thoughts, feelings and behaviors in a structured, safe way and relaxation. NOT: childhood regression or work with suppressed memories, subconscious or emotional release.
How do we do it?
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Acceptance & Commitment Therapy
ACT helps you develop a healthier relationship with your thoughts and emotions instead of struggling against them. It supports you in building a meaningful life guided by your personal values, even in the presence of difficult emotions, uncertainty, or self-critical thoughts. - Integrative CoachingWe focus on identifying and challenging irrational beliefs to reduce stress. We strengthen the capacity to You build security and emotional regulation, while less criticising yourself in the process.
- Cognitive Behavioral TherapyWe identify thoughts, reactions and actions that fuel your tension and worry. Step by step, you practice gradual, planned exercises to build new way towards confidence and resilience.
- Assertiveness TrainingWe practice respectful but honest way to protect your needs and boundaries, ask for help, present yourself or negotiate decisions so people around can get it. It works for both who are too shy and pleasing and for those who are too direct and agressive.
- Nourishing RelationshipsI do my best to talk with kindness, compassion, understanding and empathy. I promote hope, adjust sessions to every client and believe in change,
because I saw how it happens many times. - Hypnotherapy (optional)Used like an imaginary rehearsal or gradual learning. Similar to how athletes imagine performance before competition, we practice new thoughts, feelings and behaviors in a structured, safe way and relaxation. NOT: childhood regression or work with suppressed memories, subconscious or emotional release.
Mary's guidance has been truly important to me. She creates a nurturing environment where profound change happens.
I appreciate the soft and precise approach we worked with. Mary's work is special and very personal. All the time I felt accepted as I am.
Mary, I want to express my gratitude for the profound work we've done together. I can feel a sense of release—like the significant problem that weighed heavily on me has gone.
My sessions with Mary were meaningful. I would recommend her to anyone looking for clarity around repeating patterns in relationships — not only romantic ones, but in everyday interactions as well.
Thank you Mary. All my endless self-examinations began quickly take shape into a clear picture. Gradually, a solid ground starts to appear, and the sense of being here and now, along with a clearer view of the future.
Mary helped me organize my thoughts during this challenging time, highlighting aspects I hadn't noticed before. She made me feel very comfortable throughout the session, and I left feeling lighter and more productive on my goals after.
Mary is the soul and the heart! She helped me believe in myself again, understand myself better, and stop being scared to do something new and act. Thank you very much, your words still lead my way. You helped me a lot. I recommend you to my friends.
I am happy to share my positive experience with Mary. I met her being completely tired, lost, and exhausted. She was able to identify the aspects I wanted to change and guided me through a path of personal growth. I gained greater awareness and clarity on the changes I want to make.
Mary is an extraordinary individual; meeting her was special to me. She has a sincere deep interest. Instead of merely solving everyday problems, she aimed to understand the whole circle, what actually made the problem happening in the first place.
I totally recommend Mary as a Career Coach, she was very helpful and knowledgeable that helped me to overcome my doubts about my project. I would say something she is doing much deeper than I thought.
Pricing
Personal and evidence based,
one-on-one online sessions.
Usually 6-12 sessions are recommended
one-on-one online sessions.
Usually 6-12 sessions are recommended
Please feel free to BOOK
A CLARITY CALL
A CLARITY CALL
Book your free initial consultation here to get to know each other. We'll clarify what your needs are and whether a collaboration makes sense for both of us. The consultation is free and without obligation. We can meet online or by phone.
Free
20-30 min
CBH SESSION
Sessions are super personal, I do additional research specifically for your goals and always support you with psycho-education and curious questioning before moving forward. Our sessions may include exercises from the list of tools I described earlier, heartfelt conversations, problem-solving sessions, hypnosis sessions, deep relaxation sessions, assertiveness, cognition etc. Every time you leave with clarity — what shifted, what we are doing next, and practical step to apply in daily life. You learn to think and respond like your own supporter. The skills become transferable, so you can scale them to new situations and other areas of life.
Single online session 110€
60 min
6-session package
Six sessions is the usual length of a CBH program for one goal. Booking them together saves you €60 and gives the work a steady rhythm. Paid in advance.
€600
Reduced rate
For students, people in training and anyone on a low income. I keep a few places for this each week. Just mention it in your free call.
Single online session 85€
60 min
REGULATION IS A SKILL
it is not something you find
it is something you practice
WE DO IT
IN 3 STEPS
1: Relaxation Skills Training
(Lowers overall body tension)
2: Cue-Controlled Self-Regulation
(Choose to stay calmer when needed)
3: Systematic Desensitisation
(You practise staying calm in situations
that used to trigger tension)
it is not something you find
it is something you practice
WE DO IT
IN 3 STEPS
1: Relaxation Skills Training
(Lowers overall body tension)
2: Cue-Controlled Self-Regulation
(Choose to stay calmer when needed)
3: Systematic Desensitisation
(You practise staying calm in situations
that used to trigger tension)
REGULATION IS A SKILL
it is not something you find
it is something you practice
WE DO IT
IN 3 STEPS
first: Relaxation Skills Training
(Lowers overall body tension)
second: Cue-Controlled Self-Regulation
(Choose to stay calmer when needed)
third: Systematic Desensitisation
(You practise staying calm in situations
that used to trigger tension)
it is not something you find
it is something you practice
WE DO IT
IN 3 STEPS
first: Relaxation Skills Training
(Lowers overall body tension)
second: Cue-Controlled Self-Regulation
(Choose to stay calmer when needed)
third: Systematic Desensitisation
(You practise staying calm in situations
that used to trigger tension)
WHY CBH WORKS?
CBH approach is based on well-established psychological principles. Worry and tension are not just thoughts. They are patterns of reactions, attention, interpretation, and learned expectation.
When the body relaxes, the mind often follows. In behavioral psychology, this is called reciprocal inhibition: you cannot be deeply tense and deeply relaxed at the same time.
At the same time, cognitive psychology shows that the brain constantly interprets what is happening around and inside us. Under chronic stress, the mind starts predicting danger faster, focusing attention on threat, pressure, mistakes, or rejection. Thoughts become more rigid, catastrophic, and repetitive, while the body stays in a state of readiness.
Over time, people can also develop deeply rooted beliefs about themselves, others, or the world, such as “I am not good enough,” “I must not fail,” or “People will reject me if I relax or show my real self.” These beliefs are usually learned through repeated experiences and begin to feel like facts rather than interpretations.
So instead of fighting thoughts directly, we change the state that maintains them while also helping the mind examine old assumptions more realistically. As the nervous system becomes calmer, the brain is more able to process new experiences, test predictions, and update beliefs that are no longer helpful or accurate.
Over time, your system learns a different baseline. Calmness stops feeling unfamiliar, thinking becomes more flexible, and new emotional and behavioral responses become more natural and automatic.
When the body relaxes, the mind often follows. In behavioral psychology, this is called reciprocal inhibition: you cannot be deeply tense and deeply relaxed at the same time.
At the same time, cognitive psychology shows that the brain constantly interprets what is happening around and inside us. Under chronic stress, the mind starts predicting danger faster, focusing attention on threat, pressure, mistakes, or rejection. Thoughts become more rigid, catastrophic, and repetitive, while the body stays in a state of readiness.
Over time, people can also develop deeply rooted beliefs about themselves, others, or the world, such as “I am not good enough,” “I must not fail,” or “People will reject me if I relax or show my real self.” These beliefs are usually learned through repeated experiences and begin to feel like facts rather than interpretations.
So instead of fighting thoughts directly, we change the state that maintains them while also helping the mind examine old assumptions more realistically. As the nervous system becomes calmer, the brain is more able to process new experiences, test predictions, and update beliefs that are no longer helpful or accurate.
Over time, your system learns a different baseline. Calmness stops feeling unfamiliar, thinking becomes more flexible, and new emotional and behavioral responses become more natural and automatic.
WHY CBH WORKS?
CBH approach is based on well-established psychological principles. Worry and tension are not just thoughts. They are patterns of reactions, attention, interpretation, and learned expectation.
When the body relaxes, the mind often follows. In behavioral psychology, this is called reciprocal inhibition: you cannot be deeply tense and deeply relaxed at the same time.
At the same time, cognitive psychology shows that the brain constantly interprets what is happening around and inside us. Under chronic stress, the mind starts predicting danger faster, focusing attention on threat, pressure, mistakes, or rejection. Thoughts become more rigid, catastrophic, and repetitive, while the body stays in a state of readiness.
Over time, people can also develop deeply rooted beliefs about themselves, others, or the world, such as “I am not good enough,” “I must not fail,” or “People will reject me if I relax or show my real self.” These beliefs are usually learned through repeated experiences and begin to feel like facts rather than interpretations.
So instead of fighting thoughts directly, we change the state that maintains them while also helping the mind examine old assumptions more realistically. As the nervous system becomes calmer, the brain is more able to process new experiences, test predictions, and update beliefs that are no longer helpful or accurate.
Over time, your system learns a different baseline. Calmness stops feeling unfamiliar, thinking becomes more flexible, and new emotional and behavioral responses become more natural and automatic.
When the body relaxes, the mind often follows. In behavioral psychology, this is called reciprocal inhibition: you cannot be deeply tense and deeply relaxed at the same time.
At the same time, cognitive psychology shows that the brain constantly interprets what is happening around and inside us. Under chronic stress, the mind starts predicting danger faster, focusing attention on threat, pressure, mistakes, or rejection. Thoughts become more rigid, catastrophic, and repetitive, while the body stays in a state of readiness.
Over time, people can also develop deeply rooted beliefs about themselves, others, or the world, such as “I am not good enough,” “I must not fail,” or “People will reject me if I relax or show my real self.” These beliefs are usually learned through repeated experiences and begin to feel like facts rather than interpretations.
So instead of fighting thoughts directly, we change the state that maintains them while also helping the mind examine old assumptions more realistically. As the nervous system becomes calmer, the brain is more able to process new experiences, test predictions, and update beliefs that are no longer helpful or accurate.
Over time, your system learns a different baseline. Calmness stops feeling unfamiliar, thinking becomes more flexible, and new emotional and behavioral responses become more natural and automatic.
